"Whatever you do during this first day, don't ever forget that things will get better. It's unrealistic to put a timescale on things, but soon you'll start to feel normal, and after a while you'll start to have fun, and then a few months later you'll wake up one morning smiling, yet waiting for the kick in the guts to hit you, and it won't come. You'll stop thinking of him as an actual person. He'll be less of a human being, more of an era, like the Renaissance or the Industrial Revolution. One day soon, if you see him in person, it will be more like looking at a photograph of yourself as a child in the seventies - you'll know you were there, you'll think it looked like it was okay, but you won't really be able to remember it or believe that it actually happened to you... Because you're happy again."